Forgive me if I totally forgot about the second part of my Separation Anxiety post. This mommy here is once again busy tending my three children and a husband along with my work. Anyway, as school year is about to start, I am pretty sure that there are parents out there who are both eager and thrilled to see their kids go to school especially those little ones attending preschool.
I believed what I felt last week is more likely what parents out there would feel when they leave their kids at school. Separation anxiety would probably attack moms or dads who have been with their toddlers almost 24/7. If it’s hard for little ones to be left by their parents, the same could happen to us, parents.
Coping up with separation anxiety
So allow me to share some tips I’ve read on how we, parents, can cope up with separation anxiety:
• Allow yourself to feel anxious– the discomfort of being away from our child can actually be considered as a positive parenting instinct. Worries and doubts are not bad at all because believe it or not, sometimes it helps us in making good decisions.
• Other caregivers have their own ways– you take care of your child day and night. In all aspects you knew him/her very well that with the slightest hint you’ll know if there’s something wrong or not. This is why sometimes leaving our children with other people like their Dad, Grandma or a nanny when you need to do something or be somewhere else is very crucial. (This happened to me a week ago!) But what you don’t know is that your child can adapt easily. They know how to behave if they are with other people than you. Surprisingly, my son did well with his dad last week and they both had fun (even without me).
• Separation is an important part of attachment– It is advisable to let our kids be taken care of by our husband, relatives or close friends other than us, mommies. Allow our kids to trust and be cared of by other people to boost their confidence and social interaction with others.
• Spend some “ME Time”– in early years, I found it really hard to have fun and go out with my friends because I am too anxious to leave my kids to my hubby or my mom. But as they grow older, I finally got the guts to go out for hours without them. And it truly helps me unwind and get back into shape again in battling mommy-hood. I just make sure that I have something bought for them like new sets of children’s dinnerware, new clothes or new toys to ease that little guilt in me.
Separation anxiety will dissipate overtime and parents like us would soon realize that being attached to our children doesn’t necessarily means physically present for them all the time. The more times we try to leave our children to do other important chores and come back just to find out that everything was just fine, the more confident we would feel